Most Realistic Way to Reduce Anxiety
is through what we call “exposure therapy”
Read this to find out more on how to reduce social anxiety with a very realistic method that might be a bit difficult at first, but it “works” well.
I remember years ago when I was first unwinding the layers of social anxiety I was trying everything and anything I could experiment to help me out.
I would go to the mall or another crowded area and I would basically experiment and talk with strangers. Now, I know depending on who you are, that might sound out of this world.
But, bear with me.
Disclaimer: If this is your first time taking action on your social anxiety. I highly DO NOT RECOMMEND starting off with this as your first step. Why? Doing this is difficult. I recommend trying out the other practices to reduce and recover from social anxiety before you start doing this for the best results.
Social Anxiety’s Different Layers:
When you break it down, it turns out social anxiety has four layers of behavior. Many people either have one, but most report a variety of all layers. Personally, I had all four of these and some.
Signs of Anxiety Itself
Entire personality or character
Essentially, exposure therapy is systematically and incrementally exposing yourself to each one of these layers based on the context of your unique life.
For example: one of the layers of my social anxiety is getting anxious around what I’m wearing and how people are perceiving my clothes. Why? Because I grew up in a wealthy area as a poor person. My family and I were one of the small group of people who didn’t have that much money compared to everyone else. I would wear the same clothes to school again and again and at times others would make fun of me.
So, what did I do?
Addressing this specific layer of anxiety, here’s what I did:
I would wear the same clothes again and again in front of the same people.
I would wear the craziest looking clothes in crowded public areas.
Why? Well, wearing bright pink neon clothes at the mall, will make everyone look at you. You might be asking why would I want to do this to myself? Well, it’s because when you experience social anxiety, that’s what your mind wants you to think.
When people literally start staring at you and perhaps laughing it deconditions your mind from caring about people’s perception of you. Please keep in mind it’s vital to work on other areas of social anxiety first like mindfulness meditation & improving nutritional diet quality.
Exposure therapy looks different for different people. But, I hope my example sheds more light unto how to approach this and how effective this can be :)
If you have any questions, concerns, etc please feel free to respond directly to this email and I’ll get back to you as soon as possible.
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